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Patch Asks: Should Father-Daughter Dances Be Banned?

Some schools in Rhode Island have prohibited these events after school lawyers said they violate gender discrimination laws. Do you agree with the ban?

 

Father-daughter dances are a tradition at many schools and community centers in towns across Massachusetts.

But down in Cranston, R.I., school officials there say they have banned father-daughter dances after a complaint from one mother, according to various reports on Cranston Patch.

The move came after Cranston School Superintendent Judith Lundsten received a letter from the American Civil Liberties Union on behalf of a mother complaining that she had not be allowed to attend a father-daughter dance with her daughter.

Apparently, the federal Title IX legislation that bans gender discrimination actually has an exemption for activities such as father-daughter dances. But Rhode Island law does not honor that exemption, Cranston Patch reports the superintendent as saying.

Does the ACLU have a point? Should father-daughter dances be banned? Or opened up, instead, to parent-child dances? Let us know what you think in the comments section below.

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Jason Fitzgerald

5:46 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

This is common sense, and of course they shouldn't be banned. I look forward to the day when I can take my daughter out and spend a special night together. While I obviously don't need school administration to facilitate such an event the idea that is discrimination is absurd.

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siobhan hullinger

8:08 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

No, they should not be banned. Sometimes you have to learn how to participate due to your own family or personal circumstances. It is sad that we have to see lawsuits of this kind today. Look for the options and work with people first to try and make it happen.

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D.J.

8:12 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

Not so much gender discrimination, but modern realities. Lots of children live with or are in touch with just one parent, or none. Jason, I'm so happy you can look forward to taking your daughter out; my husband, my daughter's father, died when she was 7 years old.

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Vineyard Worker

11:03 am on Saturday, September 22, 2012

DJ, my Mom's mom died when my mother was 7 years old and she has never suggested banning events that touch upon her loss but rather is happy for her grandchildren and others to experience such joys BECAUSE of her loss.

karen

8:17 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

Do not ban, but allow other adult to take girl.

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Joan Meyer

8:32 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

Do not ban , but allowing another adult to take the child makes common sense in our society. RI is going over board

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Thomas J Weadock Jr

8:49 am on Friday, September 21, 2012

No! The father daughter dances I attended years ago always included girls without fathers. They would take an older brother or uncle. On many occasions, I and other fathers would have an "extra" daughter for the evening...and those fatherless daughters had a great time!

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Jeff Barry

2:27 pm on Friday, September 21, 2012

Here we have yet another instance of a single individual imposing her will on the rest of us by getting a government bureaucracy involved.

This reminds me of that guy who put a bomb in the heal of his shoe and went on a plane, so now the TSA says that everyone has to doff their shoes at the airport for the foreseeable future, ie forever since bureaucracies never go away.

Never been to a father daughter dance. Never even heard of them until now. But it would be a shame to not have had that opportunity because one person screamed, "Discrimination!"

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Anonymous

2:45 pm on Friday, September 21, 2012

I think ACLU should be banned. It's doing more harm then good to America.

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Katy G.

7:44 pm on Friday, September 21, 2012

Making everyone miserable because one person is unhappy with the situation is unfair. I agree with Anonymous, the ACLU does more damage than good in this country right now.

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Vineyard Worker

10:05 am on Saturday, September 22, 2012

Banning others from the father-daughter dance experience is reverse discrimination.

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Noyes Parent

4:45 pm on Saturday, September 22, 2012

My children don't have a father (two-mom family) and I take no offense with events like this. Any chance parents have to interact with their kids in an 'out-of the -everyday' way is great. I can't imagine an event in Sudbury where my daughters would not be able to bring a different male (friend, relative) to stand in for the typical dad.

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fitzroy

6:45 pm on Saturday, September 22, 2012

What is happening in RI sounds like a manifestation of the "are men obsolete?" argument a very left feminist segment is making. Sounds pretty absurd to me.

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Aaron Mattix

11:15 am on Saturday, February 2, 2013

I think we should have a list of fathers (with daughters), who are willing to take other girls (without fathers) that attend the same school. I believe the title (Daddy Daughter Dance) is encouraging to any father who takes the father daughter relationship for granted or are just too proud or too shy to put aside a special day on their own. Being a good father in my mind includes caring for and recognizing those children without parents, but we should not loose the title (Daddy/Father Daughter Dance) because everybody knows this world is full of lazy, shy or proud fathers who would just send mom instead. The Daddy Daughter Dance at Wayland Union Schools (in Wayland, MI) has played a big roll in me doing anything i can to be a better father to my daughters over the years so keep the DADDY DAUGHTER DANCE and put me on the FATHERLESS DAUGHTER CHAPERONE LIST.

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